You take them both and there you have the facts of life....
I feel this is quite fitting lately.
We lost a dear friend this week... we just found out about it yesterday so i’ve been a little bit quiet & withdrawn today. We knew this wonderful man for 20 years, so it’s hard to take and feels like a kick in the gut. I’m friends with this wife and his daughter, my heart is absolutely broken for them and I can’t seem to stop the tears from flowing today...
I feel especially bad for Dh as he was close friends with him and he hadn’t seen him since we moved back to Ontario. There’s a lot of guilt there, and guilt will eat you alive if you let it. It’s not his fault, obviously, but sometimes there’s no getting over it. My mother in law passed away 17 years ago and I *still* feel guilty that I didn’t take the kids to see her in the last 2 weeks of her life because they had colds and I didn’t want her getting “sick” as it was dangerous for her. A lot of good that did... I know better now however, and I know it’s not “my fault”, I realize at the time I did what I thought was best, and that’s all you can really do, isn’t it?
There’s not going to be a funeral or visitation (it wasn’t his wishes) so i’m not exactly sure what to do to ‘help’ in some tangible way. Any suggestions?
I managed to get in some sewing today, but I haven’t finished what I had hoped to accomplish today. I just don’t have it in me. So I’m choosing instead to rest & relax tonight and will finish them off tomorrow morning. I’ll write out my “to do” list for the week so it’s fresh & ready for tomorrow.
On that note i’m going to keep this post short... I hope everyone enjoyed their weekend. Hug the ones you love!